• Jon Forrest

The submission god requires in marriage

The Submission God Requires in Marriage

A man named Stumpy and his wife Martha went to the state fair every year and every year when Stumpy saw the antique bi plane he would say, "Martha, I'd like to ride in that airplane."

Martha always replied, "I know Stumpy, but that airplane ride costs 10 dollars, and 10 dollars is 10 dollars."

One year Stumpy said, "Martha, I'm 81 years old. If I don't ride that airplane I might never get another chance."

Martha replied, "Stumpy, that airplane ride cost 10 dollars, and 10 dollars is 10 dollars."

The pilot overheard them and said, "Folks, I'll make you a deal. I'll take you both up for a ride. If you can stay quiet for the entire ride and not say one word, I won't charge you: but if you say one word its 10 dollars."

Stumpy and Martha agreed and up they went. The pilot did all kinds of twists and turns, rolls and dives, but not a word was heard. He did all his tricks over again, but still not a word.

When they landed, the pilot turned to Stumpy and said, "By golly, I did everything I could think of to get you to yell out, but you didn't."

Stumpy replied, "Well, I was gonna say something when Martha fell out, but 10 dollars is 10 dollars."

That’s a fun little story about the struggle that can go on between a husband and wife over control.

1 Peter 3:1-8 and Ephesians 5:21-32 take a look at that issue. Many marriages fall apart over those problems. Who will be in control? Often people looking at these passages put their focus on the issue of women being in submission to the husband and say, “See there! The woman must submit!” Yes, there is a submission for the wife, but there is also the aspect in both passages about the husband loving his wife as Christ loved the church giving himself up for her as Paul writes in Ephesians and then there is Peter’s command for men to treat their wives in a special way so that their prayers won’t be hindered.

Actually, if we examine these passages carefully, there is a submission for both the wife and the husband. Ephesians 2:21 leads into the discussion with a command to submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. It is important to recall that Jesus told all of his followers that the first will be last and the last will be first. Jesus flipped culture upside down, or should we say, right side up. If a marriage is going to, not only strive, but thrive, the couple should be generous toward each other with control and will issues. In Ephesians 5 we are reminded that when we get married we become one flesh. That is real unity. In a great marriage, the challenge is which spouse can out-give the other.

Real submission is what the husband and the wife offer to God; obedience and a home committed fully to Him.

This Lord’s Day we will resume our series of messages through 1 Peter under the theme Living Hope as we examine marriage and home issues found in 1 Peter 3:1-7. I hope you will join us on the First Christian Church Facebook page for a Facebook Live at 10:30am MDT.

Submitting to God,


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