ALWAYS HONOR YOUR PARENTS
The Upward Look, by Jon Forrest
Always Honor Your Parents.
In the 3rd and 4th verses of 1 Samuel 22 there is an easily missed event that occurs in the crisis of David’s flight from the danger of the angry King Saul that is worthy of our notice.
From there David went to Mizpah in Moab and said to the king of Moab, “Would you let my father and mother come and stay with you until I learn what God will do for me?” 4 So he left them with the king of Moab, and they stayed with him as long as David was in the stronghold.
There is no doubt that King Saul’s anger and now vendetta against David would now bring hostility toward anyone connected with him, especially David’s family. It was not strange that he would place his parents under protection of the King of Moab. His father, Jessie’s grandmother was Ruth. Ruth was a Moabite who came to Israel with her Jewish Mother-in-law, Naomi where she married Boaz. Their son, Obed, was Jessie’s father. This would keep them out of Saul’s way and assure their safety until Saul’s death.
With all David had on his plate, he still took time to honor and protect his parents. Remember that David was the last of Eight sons, so his parents had to be getting up there in years. David was keeping the 5th commandment to honor his father and mother. He loved and cared for them and was honor bound to protect them.
Jesus would do the same thing for his widowed mother, Mary, as he was dying on the cross. Through the agony, shame and tears he looked down, saw his mother standing with one of his closest disciples, John, and declared to them that John would be a son to Mary and Mary would be John’s mother. He assured his mother’s security and safety by making this loving arrangement.
This is a reminder to us that, no matter how old we get, and no matter what happens in our lives; honoring, loving and providing for our parents is still a top priority.
Our love and care for our earthly parents demonstrates how much we love and care for our heavenly Father. This is especially true when they get to the age and condition where they are unable to take care of their own needs. While we tend to think that this time will never come, eventually it does, for most of us, barring some unforeseen early departure.
Some people think that placing a parent in a facility such as an assisted living or nursing home means washing your hands of their care. This is far from the truth. Sometimes this becomes the best option for their close and consistent care, but it is still important that you visit as much as possible. The arrival of COVID-19 caused such personal attention to need more creativity, but we must never believe such attention is not important or possible. Some seniors in nursing facilities have been visited by family members standing outside the window of their room. Others have utilized Facetime or other video visits on their phones.
But soon that will no longer be an issue. When you visit parents or loved ones in such a nursing facility you should go as often as possible. You should also show up without appointment and at different times of the day so that those charged with their care seldom know when you are coming. That way they must always know that you could come anytime and make sure constant care is practiced. Even if a parent suffers from a form of dementia and may not remember your visit, they will be happy for that time they have with you.
If you can keep them safely in their own home or in your own, that is much better because of the familiarity and joy that comes from staying close. Sometimes, disagreements can come, but you must always remember to honor and respect them no matter what.
Show God and your parents your appreciation for what your parents have done for you by making sure they always have the love, honor and security they need.
This showed God and the people of Israel that he was a proper son and a godly man who would one day be a great King of Israel.
I’m thankful for the excellent message Josh brought to us from I Samuel 21 last Sunday. He did a great job of inspiring us. This Sunday we will continue our series of messages on When God Build’s a King, How a lowly shepherd became a great king, with a message titled, Fear Refocused based on 1 Samuel 22.
I will look forward to seeing you then.